Thursday, February 3, 2011

Jill



My mom would have been 61 today. It's amazing how ten years feels like an eternity and yet in some ways I can't believe I have gone so long without her here. In honor of the occasion I thought it would be fun to share a few memories....

My mom loved Coke. Not Diet Coke, but the original, full of sugar Coke. She went through several cans a day, but to say it that way is a little misleading. She would pour her can of coke into a glass that was so full of ice that I don't know how any of the drink could actually fit in there. And then she'd have a few sips, and that would be it until later in the day when she'd open a new can of Coke and start the process all over again. All I can think is that must have gotten pretty expensive over the years.

She loved to read the newspaper. It was a daily ritual. Never saw her open a book, but she really loved the paper. And People magazine.

She ate hamburgers plain. No cheese, tomatoes, or lettuce. And condiments were an abhorrence. She also ate pizza without the tomato sauce. I wonder if that sort of thing is a genetic trait, because Cameron and Connor only eat pizza without the cheese. I don't know which is weirder.....

She loved going to movies, and if she really liked the movie she would buy the soundtrack (it seems like movies always used to have soundtracks, didn't they?) and we'd have to listen to it for WEEKS.

My mom was the BEST if you ever got sick. She was so understanding and compassionate and always took such good care of us. Maybe it's because she dealt personally with a lot of sickness in her adult life and that gave her a lot of empathy??? I don't know, but I still really miss her when I'm not feeling well.

She loved sending cards to her close friends and family. Birthday cards, thank you cards, just-thinking-of-you cards, etc. She was just really thoughtful like that :)

She worked professionally as a still photographer for awhile when I was a teenager. I think that's really cool and wish I had inherited her photography skills.

My mom had a very simple faith. She wasn't the type that went around quoting scriptures or explaining complicated gospel doctrines, but she taught me right from wrong through her actions and how she lived her life. It was a very powerful way for me to learn the way I should live.

My mom was one of the most unconditionally loving people I have ever known. She was kind to everyone and fiercely loyal to those who were close to her. I knew that there were no expectations that I had to act or be a certain way, that just being her daughter was enough. That has always meant so much to me and still does.

Well, that is all for now. Happy birthday mom! I'm off to drink a coke.....

7 comments:

lindsy said...

Hope you don't mind me commenting :) Your mom is beautiful. And you have a beautiful family. Thanks for always being an example of kindness to me!

The Bostons said...

(I feel like a bad friend- I've been too lazy to sign in and check up on my private blogs...)

BUT I LOVE THIS! I really enjoy hearing about your mom because I know how wonderful moms are. I hope you enjoyed your day rejoicing in the memories.

NaDell said...

So sweet. No wonder you're so pretty!
I love your stories. =)

Megan said...

Gorgeous mom! I feel bad that I didn't know your mom had passed, but I appreciated hearing about her. If your daughter can write that glowingly of you, then you did something right.

Alice-Anne said...

Emily, I loved this.
I never met your mother but now I feel like I kind of know her. What a unique, wonderful person. And very beautiful. Yes, I see where you get your great looks!

I can only imagine how hard it must be not to have your mom there to call and vent to when you need that--especially during this time in your life where you are in the midst of having and raising kids.
I admire how you have carried on so well all these years without her...at least on the surface, you seem to carry on amazingly. But I imagine there are many lonely days when you miss her. I bet she is so, so proud of you. And I think you're becoming a great photographer.

Mom Lynnette said...

Emily, What a sweet tribute to your mom, it brought tears to my eyes. I can't believe it has been ten years. I still miss her so much. You look more like her everytime I see you. When you got out of the car in front of our home and I watched you walk up, it took my breath away, you looked so much like her. You are a tribute to her in the way that you live your life.

Natalie said...

That is so sweet Emily. She sounds like a perfect mother. You are very lucky to have had her.